M-Day is Coming

While in Orlando, I did a national radio show with my coauthor, Dr. Bill Cutrer, an ob-gyn and Dallas Seminary grad who teaches at Southern Baptist Seminary in Louisville. As Mother's Day is coming up, we talked on Moody's Midday Connection about infertility and our Zondervan/Christian Medical Association book, The Infertility Companion.

M-day is one of the toughest days of the year for many fertility patients. One in six couples of childbearing age will have a fertility problem. About a third of the time it's due to female factors; a third of the time it's due to factors in the male; and another third is a combo. Five percent of infertility remains unexplained.

You can go here to listen to our hour-long show with live call-ins. People asked us if they should inform their son conceived by "donor sperm" about his origins; why infertile people want so much to have biological children when so many kids in the world need parents (supply and demand, right?); and how infertility can affect the marriage relationship. You can also hear some ways people have shown my husband and me extraordinary kindess on M-Day.

The book is available in Spanish as Sosten en Nuestra Infertilidad. If you (or someone you know) are experiencing infertility, which includes miscarriage, consider taking some time to listen. For lots of resources about coping with or helping a friend through infertility, go to our web site at www.aspire2.com.

I thank God for my mother. And I also thank God for the woman whose choice to make an adoption plan for her child meant I could become a mommy. But even now, ten years later, I dislike Mother's Day. Don't get me wrong--I love being Alexandra's Mom. But you never forget the pain. So I suppose it's out of sheer solidarity. Who can celebrate when so many will spend the day weeping over "empty arms, heavy burden"?